Like most women, I don’t need a superhero. Although we grew up watching Superman and Batman now that we are older we don’t want to date a superhero. Sure, it would be nice to have a guy fly us around in the air and lift SUV’s off the ground when our cat is hiding underneath, but that’s not what makes us run to you. We don’t need a macho muscleman. Take off your Rambo headbands, guys!
We want a guy who is in good shape, but that doesn't mean you need to be like “Vin Diesel. ” In fact, when guys try to seem super macho, it's actually a huge turn-off. If a woman sees her man or a potential mate working out in the gym, even if it’s just stretching, she will be turned on. Whether you bench fifty or five hundred, when a guy takes care of himself, women find that very attractive. Bonus Point: If you put the effort into looking good and staying healthy, you better believe that your “ladyfriend” will want to put in the effort as well. So now both of you will be sexy beasts!
THE TRUTH: You don’t have to have three percent body fat, just make the effort to take care of yourself- even if it’s just once or twice a week.
Everyone loves money; if you have a pulse, you love money. But one thing women find very unattractive is a man who tries to buy a woman’s affection. Today’s woman makes her own money. The fact is, if a woman doesn’t say yes the first or second time you ask her out, what makes you think presents will change her mind? If a woman is interested in you, she’s interested in you. It doesn’t matter how much money you have, even if you’re going dutch on the first date.
Special Tip: Women strongly prefer that you pay for the first date, if not the first three. After that, a woman will often treat you, or offer to go dutch. A woman wants you, the person, who you are, not your money. The Beatles were right when they said, “You can’t buy love.” Will there be women who won’t date a poor guy? For sure! But for every woman like that, there are a million other women who choose love over money.
Women also hate men who brag about how much money they make or the things they buy. When a man does that, we think that you’re insecure. If you think your best trait is your paycheck or your new cufflinks, then buddy, you need to work on yourself! A man who is smart with his money- who invests in his 401 K, who saves, who is ambitious- is more attractive than the rich guy who’s throwing his money around like he’s Donald Trump. Guys who throw around cash, brand names and labels seem shallow and dull. We want a stable man who will prepare for the future not throw away money on the newest fad.
THE TRUTH: Women want men who are smart with their money, not men who are made of money!
Our mothers warned us about the smooth-talking guy. Yet still, men try to schmooze women all the time, thinking that a few select words and a charming compliment will make a woman want him. Who doesn’t like to be told they are beautiful? But we want to run and hide when we’re sitting at the bar with our girlfriends, and you come up and say something cheesy like, “ Well, well am I not the luckiest guy in the planet or what? What’s someone like you doing here?” Coming on to a woman like a slick car salesman never works. So what does work? Being genuine. Being genuine simply means being a man of your word; believing and going through with what you say not just with us, but also with the people around you. Being genuine means coming up to us at the bar and just saying hello, rather than using some corny pick-up line or trying to butter us up too much. Being genuine means that when you say you are going to do something, you do it; you don’t come up with a million excuses all the time for everyone. If you’re genuinely honest and kind, let it show! Because then, any compliment you have for a woman will be taken to heart in a good way, and she will be very turned on! A woman trusts a genuine man that follows through on his word because nothing is sexier than a guy we feel safe with and trust.
THE TRUTH: Women like genuine men!
With that said, I hope you men will sleep better. So throw out your superhero costumes, and just be your lovable, regular old selves because that’s who we’re looking for!
