The sick mom excuse? Don’t believe it. Our mothers taught us to use that excuse that way we wouldn’t have to look bad and instead, she could take the blame. Therefore, if a woman pays too much attention to her cell phone on a date, chances are she’s contacting her friends for an excuse to bolt. Trust me; we girls make a pact to save each other’s butt. When we know a friend has a date, we’ll send a text or make a phone call to the friend during their date just in case she wants an excuse to leave. And when a woman absolutely cannot stand being in the same room with a date, she’ll be thanking her friend for days on end for that very same text or phone call. Just as chicks go to the bathroom together, we stick together on dating strategies.
Another cautionary note in case you weren’t listening: If she seems interested in you but she still nuzzles her cell as if it’s her first- born child…ditch her. Do you really want to be involved with a woman who can’t take an hour away from her day for you?
The intention of a first date can vary: from hopes of sexual relations to hopes of long-term love, but a date is always a chance for two people to share information about each other, and see if there is chemistry. If a woman is too busy talking about herself to ask about you it doesn’t matter what your intentions are because she’s not worth it. If she uses phrases like, “So anyway, about me...” or “and as I was saying, in regards to me…” grab your coat, cover your ears, and run out the door. After twenty minutes with your date, you shouldn’t be able to recite her whole life story and if Miss “I’m my own biggest fan” only knows your first name, she’s definitely too self-absorbed to be in a relationship with anyone but herself.
With this rule, there can be some exceptions. Crap happens; pardon my French but it’s true. So it’s up to you to tap into your intuition and see if the woman is for real or not. Someone could get a ticket on their way to a first date, but when someone’s stoked to spend time with you chances are, they will be there on time. I’ve always been the kind of woman who believes that arriving fashionably late isn’t late enough, but even an exciting first date can get me there on time. So, if she leaves you waiting for a half an hour, you’re better off leaving or prospecting for future dates. If your date shows up an hour later and is upset because you’ve found a better option, too bad!
This is a tough one. Many women might clam up on the first date simply because they are nervous or shy. If she seems nervous talking about her life, give the girl a chance. Some time and an easy-going attitude can make her a little more relaxed. But jump the border to Mexico or Canada if your date is icier than your beer. If a woman takes a step away from you if you get closer to her, or if she flinches when you try to hold her hand, give up now. Even the most modest of women enjoy some physical contact, like her hand being touched or a hug. Don’t expect to be entering her bedroom after date number one but still, if she’s interested in you, touching her in a sweet way isn’t going to make her shrug you off like a cockroach that just landed in her hair. (Unless of course, she’s germ- phobic and doesn’t like new people touching her, in which case call her therapist, and go home! If you really hit it off, you can go out with her again once a professional do the dirty work.) You want a woman to make you feel as welcome and wanted as you make her feel. An interested woman will touch your hand during conversation, bump her knee into you, or a bold lady may sneak in for the kill and grab a kiss at the end. This is the woman you’re looking to date again, not the ice queen.
"I just want to be friends." These words give me night sweats and tremors; nobody wants to be on the receiving end of that sentence. Yet somehow, men and women alike don’t get it that when someone says they just want to be friends, they mean it. Don’t interpret it as, “Maybe we will get together one day,” or “We’re just going to be friends for now”. Take the words for what they are: A rejection. If we tell you we want to be your friend that means we want you to come over and watch the Golden Girls with us and listen to us complain about the next guy we go on a date with. It doesn’t mean we’re saving ourselves for you at a later date. There are no reservations in love; if the woman wants you, she takes the first available appointment. The only exception to this rule is if a woman was recently dumped, separated, divorced or has gone through a death in the family. In that case, she just might need some time but, I still wouldn’t hold my breath. Go and find someone who wants you now, not later, ok?
Speaking of which, there is no time to waste! Run along…there are a million single women dying to meet someone as special as you are. Don’t keep the ladies waiting, Prince Charming.
