The main thing to realize when you’re trying to seduce the girl of your dreams is that women today have taken the initiative; because of this, the first thing to keep in mind – and this is not a technique, it’s an enormous reality – is that women are the ones who choose. There have actually been very few cases of annoyingly persistent suitors who have persevered enough to capture the attention of their dream girl.

The woman, my dear friends, has the power to choose. You, of course want her to choose you. Therefore the main thing for you to do is this: Recover the sacred rituals that members of the male gender have practiced for centuries. Pull out that treasure chest of chivalry and adapt it to the age of globalization. If you want to be a modern-day Don Juan, take this advice.

Before going over the tips to help you win over your dream girl, let me tell you the most important thing, Rule 0, if you will. BE YOURSELF! Being relaxed and natural is the most irresistible characteristic you can develop in order to have success in romance. That said here is a succinct “Top 10” of tips to make that special woman fall for you and stay fallen for you.

Focus your mind on the thought that you are the coolest and most interesting guy in the world. Repeat after me: “I am the best and I’m going to get what I want.” Truckloads of books have been written on this subject but this is what they all basically say.

This is the thing that most attracts women. A gallant and sensitive man, who is still very masculine, is not easy to find these days. Below are three golden rules that will never fail you when it’s time to make your move:

• Give her a book of poetry or romantic thoughts. Underline in red or highlight the words that speak of love (that way she'll know you actually read it). Draw hearts and put quotation marks around phrases such as “I love you” to draw her attention to it.
• Learn to say “I love you” in some foreign and little-known language. Use it sparingly to excite her curiosity to the point where she just has to check the dictionary -- or to where she offers you something interesting in return for its meaning.
• Make a CD of romantic love songs for her: At the end of the recording, add your own declaration of love. Most computers these days can make a funky recording and burn it to a CD. Make the message sweet and simple. This act will make any woman surrender and sigh with love forever.

Develop your speaking skills so that you light up the room with your words while managing to conceal the intent within the form. This way, your sagacious plans are eclipsed by the intoxicating presence of the verbose lover (that's you), a trick practiced for centuries by the most famous heartthrobs in history, such as Don Juan and Casanova, not to mention the butt-ugly Cyrano de Bergerac.

Or at least pretend to listen. It always works to put on an interested face while she tells you her problems or talks about what she’s interested in. What women appreciate most: is a man who knows how to listen and responds appropriately. You don't have to fix her problem, just listen. In fact, don't even try to fix the problem. She wants to be heard, not fixed. For women speaking is intimacy.

Members of the female ranks unanimously agree that one of the most seductive traits a man can possess paying close attention to details. Notice things. Remember significant dates. Surprise her with flowers or a momento. Of course, you don’t want to go overboard and smother the girl with constant compliments and gifts. As with everything else, find a balance.

Remember that a caress begins with a look in your eyes, a tender word, and a voice whispering in her ear. Don't start out using your hands. Learn to be subtle and first create a mood. Project a vibe. The acceptance in her eyes must come first. Remember she's the one choosing how things go. Begin the first contact with a gentle touch to awaken the skin, stimulate the senses, and ignite the sexual chemistry. If that first caress is just right, the erogenous zones will heat up and the path to what follows next will be smooth and easy. The first place you should caress is her hands, or maybe her hair. Offering a simple neck massage or even a foot massage is an excellent way to initiate touch and melt away her inhibitions.

Watch what you wear, because I’ll be spying on you. The best thing is to find something that makes you look elegant but informal. A nice pair of jeans with a stylish cut paired with a black or a white shirt always makes a good impression and is also very exciting.

Don’t let the relationship or the dating become monotonous. Be creative. Come up with new ideas and things to do. Surprise her. Every date doesn't have to be a major event. Be subtle. Always introduce novelty, even into regular things you both like to do. This goes for sex too.

Don’t just spray on some cologne and leave it at that. Take a good shower, so you smell clean and let the love of your life fall in love with your personal scent. Use a deodorant that smells manly.

Yeah that was Rule 0. That's how important it is.

While you are trying out all these means of seduction remember to integrate them into your personal style. Use them, don't act them. Master them the way you would master a tool. Then use them as a master would, giving you a greater depth of self-expression, freedom and self-respect. And there is nothing more seductive and irresistible than that.