If you want to be irresistibly charming, always be well mannered. Turn anger into good-humor, in every conversation and interaction, not just with her but in any environment. Accept whatever happens in stride and without protest, even in the face of a rejection. If you act like it doesn’t bother you or that you are terribly chivalrous, she will be intrigued.
Your messages and actions should always be very positive. Everything you say should have a touch of humor and gallantry. Open her car-door, slide her chair out for her at the restaurant, and help her take her coat on and off. All women are driven wild by this. Just remember, it’s not the act it is the attention. Details, details, details! When they look at you, it will be as if they’re looking at the hottest Hollywood movie star. One thing that never fails is to whisper gently in her ear how much you love her, or if you haven't gotten to love yet, how beautiful she is, or what an amazing effect she has on you.
This is a very effective approach, it works especially well on women with a pronounced maternal instinct, or if they are very sensitive themselves. But don’t go overboard with the drama, because if you do you may end up going beyond her drama threshold.
Tell her how much you love your pets or even your plants. Better yet, animals in general, especially if she is a vegetarian. Yes you may have to eat tofu. Oh you are sooooo sensitive! Talk about how your previous partners couldn’t understand you because things just touch you so deeply. It wouldn't hurt to throw in some comments about how sad the cruelty in the world makes you but don't overdo it. Negativity is as much a turn off as sensitivity is a turn on.
Tell her about romantic books and poetry that you like. Memorize a few poems to recite to her. Take her to see a romantic movie and hold her hand as you watch it, your eyes welling over with tears. Be visibly touched. Be a little shy and timid when you move to kiss her the first time. She will not refuse.
This approach is not the most sensual but many women love brainy guys. Take advantage of every opportunity to demonstrate how much you know, stunning her with your breadth of knowledge. But be subtle, show your great knowledge in an off hand manner so you don't come off as arrogant.
Don’t be passive in conversation; always show an openness to talking about any topic. Don't be a geek who can only discuss one topic. Learn what her interests are, research them on your own and share with her what you’ve learned.
Compliment her on her intelligence and listen intently when she talks. As always, don't overdo the compliments. The best way to compliment her intelligence is to be “inspired” by what she says.
Don’t blow it by suddenly becoming very aggressive when its time to make a move. Keep it gentle, maybe even a little shy.
But beware, try to use this technique on a very passionate, carnal woman and she’ll be out the door in quicker than you can say “juxtaposition” or some other 25 cent word.
If you want to appear to be romantic, but you’re really not, it could be difficult to pull this off, but it’s not impossible. The romantic likes all kinds of women. No exceptions! He likes the whole design. This seducer is similar to the sensitive soul, except you are not tortured or sad or burdened by the “cold, cruel world”. You are “in love with love” so let her know that, subtly, of course.
If you’re out to dinner and she excuses herself for a moment, put a romantic note or chocolate at her place for her to find when she returns. Give her flowers regularly, if you want to woo her into a relationship. Even a single flower a week will have a powerful effect. A single rose is perfect for an early date or even a first date if it’s Valentine's Day.
Talk about things of beauty in nature, like the birds, the color of the sky, how sweet the flowers smell, while you’re taking a walk or out for a drive. Recite poetry about how romantic the sound of the ocean is, watching the sunset, or the beauty of nature or art or music or whatever you are “passionate” about. Get the picture? Emphasize the romance of everything.
Romantics are not shy. Ask her to dance, slowly, without music and in the middle of Fifth Avenue in New York City.
While on the surface this all seems a bit phony, remember this. Most of us learned our “romance personalities” early on and haven’t changed them very much. At the same time we all want to be more successful at love, feel more confident and enjoy our relationships more. Perhaps experimenting with some different seducer profiles will open up some new doors for you. Hey, you might even find that you really are a romantic! You never know.
