He’ll say, “Just tell me what you need!  Ask me for what you want!”

And honestly, sometimes I just don’t know what to tell him.

So it’s not that we are trying to drive you crazy, fellas. This is not something that we do in order to watch you pull your hair out while we stifle our giggles.

For whatever reason it is hard for us to ask or tell you exactly what we want and need. That is because most of the time we don’t even KNOW what we want or need!   

And while we don’t expect you to be able to figure it out for us, there are times when you can actually take the initiative and help solve the problem.

I admit that there are times when I do wish my boyfriend could read my mind. (I’m working on it!) But honestly, more often than not, I just want him to do something without my having to ask for it.

For example...if you’ve spent all week working and hanging out with the guys or watching sports in the evening for downtime, don’t make her ask you to set aside some time for her over the weekend. Instead, ask her if she will go on a date with you. Or tell her you’ve got a surprise for her and whisk her away somewhere overnight. Now you might be asking yourself, “How do I know she wants alone time with me this weekend?” Trust me, she does.

Another example...say you and your girl have been a little off track, not quite connecting the way you usually do and her birthday (or your anniversary, or Easter, or whatever!) is coming up don’t expect her to be totally forthcoming about what she wants. I’m not saying that I approve of passive-aggressive behavior, but I am guilty of it at times. So rather than asking her, “Do you want to do something special for your birthday/our anniversary/Easter?” (she’ll probably say, “No...i’m fine.”)  Just take the initiative and throw a special gathering for her or surprise her with a special date or a fun brunch.

Okay...so now you might be saying to yourself, “She’s telling me to roll over!” I’m not, I assure you. There is nothing fun about making a man feel like he’s not doing enough or like he’s not a “good boyfriend”.  I’m just trying to show you that sometimes stepping back and taking a look at the big picture (and, yes, sometimes swallowing a little pride) can make you seem like a mind-reader. And it will make your girlfriend very happy.

Don’t make her ask you to:  take out the trash, plan a “date night”, do the laundry once in a while, rub her feet. If you just do some of this stuff without her having to ask you will be amazed by the results.

I came home recently after having kind of a crappy day. I wasn’t in a good mood and I was feeling down. What I wanted to say was, “Hey, Babe. I’ve had a really bad day. I could use a hug and maybe you could even take me out to dinner.” But I just couldn’t do it. So instead I tried to pretend like I was okay.  Well, my boyfriend is on to me...but instead of getting pissed at me for being non-communicative I think he realized how hard it would have been for me to actually ask for a little pampering. He came up to me as I was putting away the dishes and he took a glass out my hand and turned me around and gave me a hug. And as he held me I felt myself letting go of my bad day, little by little. I loved him more in that moment than ever before...because he read my mind.